Try this, it’s worth it. Just fill in the gaps with whatever comes into your head first:
Good food is ___________. Bad food is ____________.
Good people _____________________. Bad people _______________________.
I’m good when I ______________________. I’m bad when I _________________________.
Don’t think about it, just go with whatever enters your head.
Those are your judgments and they are COMPLETELY made up. You invented them based on the ways that you were rewarded and punished in your childhood. There’ll be squadrons more of them, but the above are enough to be going on with.
Like almost everyone else, you spend most of your life trying to do/be/have ‘good’ things and avoid ‘bad’ things. There are also a few people who avoid ‘good’ things and do their best to be ‘bad’! Neither of these ways of living will bring you any lasting satisfaction or delight. You might ‘feel’ like a good person, but you will not be satisfying your deepest desire to express your true nature in the world.
If you take away the labels, you lose the judgment. Good and bad are just labels. As humans there are a few ‘goods’ that most of us agree on, as well as a few ‘bads’, but your definitions will be based on the ways you were rewarded and punished as a child.
For example, if your parents rewarded you for being polite and nice, you will feel good when you behave that way and bad if you think you’ve been rude. You are simply referring back to your childhood model.
The idea of the parent figure, the authority, what I call The BP (the big parent) lingers into adulthood, long after we are able to become fully fledged, independent thinking adult humans. There is no BP out there who will reward you or punish you for your goods and bads.
Now imagine this – what if nothing is good and nothing is bad? Everything just ‘is’.
It might sound like New Age nonsense, but if you take away your good/bad definitions, suddenly you have options.
If you start to play with the idea that there is no ‘good’ and no ‘bad’, you will begin to notice your judgments. You will see that you are making them all day long. You will also notice, that without your definitions and judgments, possibilities begin to open up to you.
Without your judgments, you have choice, and choice is freedom. You choose what you would love. When you remove the good/bad labels, you have the space to ask yourself:
“What would I love?”
What food would you love? What job/business would you love? What relationship would you love? Where would you love to live? Who would you love to visit today?
What would you love to create in this life?
What would you really love? What would really get your motor running? What would truly lead to satisfaction and joy? You know the answer to this, especially when you remove your definitions of people, things and the world.
Without your definitions, you are in innocence, not knowing and from there, all things are possible and life is joyful.
Then, all you need to do is take action towards what you would love.
Sounds simple and it is – freedom is always yours.