Who Is Influencing Your Life?

It is the statement that used to make you cringe as a teenager. The one mom used to always use when she disagreed with your choice of friends. But does the statement hold true? Someone asked me today about my thoughts on why it is important to surround yourself with successful people. My first thought was, “What classifies success?” The truth is, it doesn’t matter. Everyone has a different definition of success. What is important is not losing your passion for what you love. It is important to continue to strive toward your goals and to never stop dreaming dreams. So many peoples lives have become stagnant. It isn’t that these people don’t have dreams, they have lost their burning desire to attain those dreams. A lot of what causes this is the inability to surround themselves with people who motivate and challenge them. Surrounding yourself with people who motivate and challenge you, keep you on a course to achieving your goals. It holds you to a sense of accountability.

Here’s another way I like to think of it. Picture a group of coals when they are heating your food. As a group, the coals will draw heat from one another, keeping them hot for a long period of time. But if you remove a single coal from the group, it will grow cold in just a matter of minutes. The same is true for us. If you surround yourself with people who share your same beliefs and passion for life, you are more likely to attain true happiness. You stay motivated because as a whole you draw strength from one another. I once read that “confidence is contagious”. If that is true, then so is negativity and lack of motivation. Negativity is so strong that is can literally ruin people’s lives just has fast as you blink an eye.

“The people you associate with and share ideas with have a major influence on how you choose to act upon or not act upon your dreams.” So doesn’t it seem easier to accomplish what you set forth to do when you surround yourself with people who are also striving for more than a stagnant existence?